Nov 7, 2013

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My Life’s Quirks Revisited – Things I Took For Granted Before I Became a Wife and Mother

This post was written a couple of years ago and even though my kids are older, this all still holds true…

I am a wife and a mother to two wonderful kids. A six year old daughter and a three year old son. I wouldn’t change my life ever: I enjoy being a wife and I love being a mom. But, with that being said, some days I think of my bachelorette days gone by. I think of the ease my life had 10 years ago. There are some things I look back at and think “I really should have appreciated that more”. Today, I thought I would share with you three of the things I really took for granted before I became a wife and mother.

Wearing my pyjamas from the time I wake up to the time I go to bed

I know I’m not the only one who did this. Heck, some of you probably still do it (and I am so jealous of you). Days when I wasn’t working nor had any plans, I would lounge around in my pjs all day and not care. But now, if I still have pjs on past noon, or if my daughter notices that it’s lunchtime and she’s still in her pjs, she’ll ask *insert snarky tone* “Mo-om! Are we going to stay in our pajamas all day?” *insert eye-roll* When I hear that tone, I just shake my head, and defeatedly say “no”…then go pull on my jeans and let her pick out something to wear. *sigh*

Eating anything I wanted, whenever I wanted

Back in the day, if I wanted to eat a bowl of Frosted Flakes for supper, I did. If I wanted to eat a chocolate bar at ten in the morning, I did. No one was there to judge (and before the kids, my metabolism was much faster – but I’m not bitter) Nowadays, if I pull out a chocolate bar to eat, I get attacked by the kids. “Me too! Me too!” I hear. Then I try explaining that a chocolate bar is not a good idea as a morning snack…but the kids don’t believe me! Apparently, since I’m mom, I lead my example…or some such nonsense. And if the hubs catches me, he’ll just ask “Where’s mine?” or he’ll just huff until I share mine. You read that right. I have to share MY chocolate bar! It’s like I have to hide to eat a chocolate bar now. But that won’t work either because I know that that is the exact moment my son will run around the house exclaiming that he pooed, so I’ll come out of my hiding spot and everyone will ask “What are you eating?” *sigh*

Going to the bathroom with the door closed

I NEVER thought this would be something I missed. Heck, I didn’t even think it would ever be something that I could miss. I get that there is something to be said about the comfort level between you and your spouse when you are sitting there peeing and he just walks in to shave…and it’s not considered strange to either of you. But thinking about that now…what the hell?! But the best part is the kids! Again, sitting there peeing then suddenly the door slams open and my son runs in super happy to see me…acting like he hasn’t seen me in weeks. Then my daughter hears the happiness and decides to come join us. Suddenly, I have to give hugs to my kids…while sitting there. On the toilet. Then Jason will come in to shave. Yes please, let’s all have a party! Oh, and by the way, get out get out get out! When did my going pee become an invitation to everyone in my household to come join me? Now, after the kids go to bed and the hubs is safely downstairs playing his video game, I go to the bathroom, shut the door and lock it. I may not even have to go, but just the idea that I can have 3 minutes in there, uninterrupted, it too precious to pass up. *sigh*

So there you have it. The three things I miss the most about my single days. So here is my advice to those of you who are still single: Relish in your liberty to veg in your jammies, eat whatever you want, whenever you want and smile and delight in the fact that you can pee uninterrupted and for however long you want. That is my lesson to you singletons. Learn from me. 😉

A few things I took for granted before I became a wife and mother. Just another one of my life’s quirks.

  1. Just because I’m super nice I’ll do all of those things for you too. Double PJs day, double chocolate, double… You get the idea. 🙂

  2. My friend told me she hides in the laundry room to eat her chocolate bars, lol. Just think of how much laundry you’d get done!

  3. I so hear you. No, the bathroom is and will ever be private, no matter who is in there. Just lock it Julie, be firm. They can do without you for a few minutes.
    As a stepmom, I also can’t eat chips for breakfast, as then my stepdaughter wants it to. But now I just think, she is not mine, she is raised already, I don’t care anymore, in the weekend I want to do whatever I want. So I will just eat chips, while she has her normal breakfast, and she can have chips in the afternoon. Like normal children.

    And yes sharing can hurt, like my favourite icecream. And sometimes I just say, no, this is mine, you can have that.

  4. I wasn’t sure if I should lock myself in since all of them think it’s OK to just barge in the bathroom; or trying to take a bath!

  5. Bookaholic Cat – *shocked* You would do double chocolate? For me?! You are the best friend ever! 😉

    Rebe – The laundry room! Why didn’t I ever think of that! lol

    aurian – Now that my kids are a little older, I can say no, get your own. It was not so easy when they were little lol

    Diane – Locking the door was always tempting but I think them barging in is almost better than them knocking at the door non-stop lol

  6. Ohhhh Julie we share the same life 🙂 But I think you forgot one. Showering! I would love to take a shower by myself with no interruptions. I remember the days I used to be able to take long baths (or did I just make that up?). I have even had the experience where my son, niece, and nephew came into the bathroom during my shower to argue about something, 5 min later my hubby comes in to join their argument. Not to remove them but to add his opinion. It was a classic comedy movie experience.
    Don’t get me wrong I would never trade my family for anything in the world, I just sometimes wish for a vacation from them but I would not last a day without missing them so much I would have to go back home. Ok, maybe I would last a day.

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