Sep 29, 2014

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Question – Does Your ‘Mate’ Have to Be a Reader?

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Quick and easy this week.  Sort of.

We are all avid readers.  Like, crazy insane ‘I Love Books’ avid readers.  But is being a reader a quality you require in your partner?

I met Jason in 2001.  I was NOT an avid reader at that time.  In fact, back then I still assumed all books were boring.  I know…crazy right?!  So for me, that was not a quality I looked for in a man.

But if I were single now and still looking for that special someone, would I look for a reader?  I’m not sure.  I think it’s cool and quite sexy when a man reads.  But I think the most important thing for me is that this gentleman understands my need for time to read.  As long as I don’t get whining or complaining when I’m deep into a book or as long as I don’t have a man tell me it’s him or the book, I’m good.

What about you?  Does your mate have to be a reader?


  1. #1 is not a reader. When we go on vacation to a place with no electricity, he might read a book or two in a week. I read a book or two a day. When he does read, it is nothing along the same lines that I do. He reads high fantasy, R.A.Salvatore is his author of choice right now. Or he reads more like reference type books. He did read Interview with a Vampire once. I think that is the only book that we’ve both read.

  2. I’m with you, he doesn’t have to be a reader, but he has to understand that reading is important for me and he should respect that. I’m lucky DH is very understanding… very, very… the man is a saint somedays, but don’t tell him I told you that. I’ll deny it. 😉

  3. Mine reads – but only nonfiction. Which, yes, means he hasn’t read any of my books. People are sometimes shocked by that, but it doesn’t bother me. I think it gives us a level of separation in an otherwise pretty joined-at-the-hip relationship. He doesn’t *always* respect my reading time, but I ask him not to talk to me when I’m writing, so I try to be patient about time outside of that. 🙂

    (*try* being the operative word there…)

  4. I’ve actually never dated a reader. My ex-husband certainly wasn’t one. But it has always been a dream of mine. I have this picture in my head of two old farts, sitting side by side on a swinging porch chair, and reading together as the sun sets. I’d like that reality (I’d love it, really), but it’s not essential for me. There are other things that are so much more important to me (honor, honesty, kindness, empathy etc). I am pretty thrilled right now though. I’m in the beginning stages of seeing someone who IS actually a reader – an avid one at that. My joy knows no limits! 🙂

  5. My husband is not a reader. He maybe reads a book a year, and only nonfiction about wrestling. He’s pretty understanding about my need for reading time though.

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