Mar 17, 2011

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My Life’s Quirks – Things I Took For Granted Before I Became a Wife and Mother

I am a wife and a mother to two wonderful kids.  A six year old daughter and a three year old son.  I wouldn’t change my life ever:  I enjoy being a wife. and I love being a mom.  But, with that being said, some days I think of my bachelorette days gone by.  I think of the ease my life had 10 years ago.  There are some things I look back at and think “I really should have appreciated that more”.  Today, I thought I would share with you three of the things I really took for granted before I became a wife and mother.

Wearing my pyjamas from the time I wake up to the time I go to bed

I know I’m not the only one who did this.  Heck, some of you probably still do it (and I am so jealous of you).  Days when I wasn’t working nor had any plans, I would lounge around in my pjs all day and not care.  But now, if I still have pjs on past noon, or if my daughter notices that it’s lunchtime and she’s still in her pjs, she’ll ask *insert snarky tone* “Mo-om!  Are we going to stay in our pyjamas all day?”  *insert eye-roll* When I hear that tone, I just shake my head, and defeatedly say “no”…then go pull on my jeans and let her pick out something to wear.  *sigh*

Eating anything I wanted, whenever I wanted

Back in the day, if I wanted to eat a bowl of Frosted Flakes for supper, I did.  If I wanted to eat a chocolate bar at ten in the morning, I did.  No one was there to judge (and before the kids, my metabolism was much faster – but I’m not bitter) Nowadays, if I pull out a chocolate bar to eat, I get attacked by the kids.  “Me too!  Me too!” I hear.  Then I try explaining that a chocolate bar is not a good idea as a morning snack…but the kids don’t believe me!  Apparently, since I’m mom, I lead my example…or some such nonsense.  And if the hubs catches me, he’ll just ask “Where’s mine?” or he’ll just huff until I share mine.  You read that right.  I have to share MY chocolate bar!  It’s like I have to hide to eat a chocolate bar now.  But that won’t work either because I know that that is the exact moment my son will run around the house exclaiming that he pooed, so I’ll come out of my hiding spot and everyone will ask “What are you eating?”  *sigh*

Going to the bathroom with the door closed

I NEVER thought this would be something I missed.  Heck, I didn’t even think it would ever be something that I could miss.  I get that there is something to be said about the comfort level between you and your spouse when you are sitting there peeing and he just walks in to shave…and it’s not considered strange to either of you.  But thinking about that now…what the hell?!  But the best part is the kids!  Again, sitting there peeing then suddenly the door slams open and my son runs in super happy to see me…acting like he hasn’t seen me in weeks.  Then my daughter hears the happiness and decides to come join us.  Suddenly, I have to give hugs to my kids…while sitting there.  On the toilet.  Then Jason will come in to shave.  Yes please, let’s all have a party!  Oh, and by the way, get out get out get out!  When did my going pee become an invitation to everyone in my household to come join me?  Now, after the kids go to bed and the hubs is safely downstairs playing his video game, I go to the bathroom, shut the door and lock it.  I may not even have to go, but just the idea that I can have 3 minutes in there, uninterrupted, it too precious to pass up.  *sigh*

So there you have it.  The three things I miss the most about my single days.  So here is my advice to those of you who are still single:  Relish in your liberty to veg in your jammies, eat whatever you want, whenever you want and smile and delight in the fact that you can pee uninterrupted and for however long you want.  That is my lesson to you singletons.  Learn from me.  😉

A few things I took for granted before I became a wife and mother.  Just another one of my life’s quirks.

  1. What I miss most is peace and quiet! There is noise everywhere….my daughter screeching, my son’s video game, my husband watching TV, the dog barking….I have a dream of living in a shack in Vermont in the woods. Where it’s really, really quiet. :^)

  2. I agree with them all! I also miss being able to watch whatever I want on TV and making a phone call without someone hanging on my leg begging to talk.

  3. Penelope – Quiet? *blinks* what’s that?

    Patti – OMG! How could I forget about the phone?! It’s like a magnet. The second you’re on the phone, every one needs you and calls your name…loudly!

  4. The bathroom one is LOL. I hate a kitten who is excited to be in the bathroom for some reason. If you don’t shut the door hard enoug, she’ll peek her head in and then sit there and watch you.

  5. That is so funny! @Katiebabs, I was about to say the same thing!!! I have three animals that follow me to the bathroom and 2 kids calling me while I am in there! Our cats food is in there, so everytime I walk in there she pushes open the door thinking it is food time! Then the other cat wants to eat too. Then the dog follows the cats wondering what they are up to! *Sigh*

  6. Katie – I don’t have a cat anymore, but I used to…and mine did that too! How is it that it’s freakier when your cat watches you pee than your kids? lol

    Shannon – Cats, dogs and kids! Yeah…I would lock the door. Emergencies be damned. lol

  7. Ahhhh the good ole days! You might think you miss those things you long for, but I think you would really miss the wonderful family you have now if you were single again. I’m with you on bathroom. Somethings are meant to be done in private so GET OUT!

  8. Lol, I have still not gone through that.

  9. I feel your pain Julie! OMG the bathroom situation kills me! No lie, last week all 3 out of my 4 kids entered while I was in there, my oldest is 16 and he knocked on the door to talk to me! Like he couldn’t wait for me to come out. Their father was in the living room and they all decided that they had to speak with me right at that moment!!!

  10. The eating whatever/whenever I want issue wasn’t a problem for me with my daughter. But it’s definitely something I have to watch with with my son. My daughter doesn’t eat any kind of goodies (gasp! I know.). I’m talking no cookies, cupcakes, chocolate, nothing. She won’t even eat her own birthday cake. My son, on the other hand, raids my chocolate stash! So I have to be sure to hid it (and hide it well because keeping in my purse doesn’t work) and not eat it in front of him.

    I am totally with you on going to the bathroom alone. Those days are gone. Long gone.

  11. YAY!! You’ve got a ‘subscribe to comments’ thingy 🙂

  12. Pajama days will come back. It wasn’t till my kids were in high school and college before I could declare it ‘Pajama Day!’.

    Nobody follows me to the bathroom anymore except the dogs. They think the toilet is the ‘petting stool’. They leave when I reach for the toilet paper. Sometimes I reach just to get them to move on. Also, I got so use to leaving the door open for the kids, that now I forget I don’t need to. I now get fussed at by my kids for leaving the door open.

    I miss watching what I want to watch on TV or even having the TV off (gasp!) when my kids are home. They can’t imagine why I don’t want to watch what they want to watch. I have to remind them of who bought the TV and who pays for the electricity and who is sending them to college. So hand over the remote!

    However, if I go to my room to read in quiet (leaving the TV to whoever wants to watch it), eventually someone comes and finds me. Even my husband comes looking for me if I’m gone too long. Then it’s the question of ‘what are you reading?’ and ‘what’s it about?’ I find it very funny.

  13. Judi – I would miss them…I just wish they all understood what “give mommy 2 minutes” meant. LOL

    blodeuedd – Enjoy the freedom. 😉

    Bells – I know about daddy! I don’t understand why they have to track me down when daddy is sitting right there, not doing anything! lol

    Book Vixen – No junky stuff! That’s actually a great thing.
    And yes, I added the comment thing after my Question this Monday. I hope the plugin doesn’t mess things up this time around. lol

    Jill – They leave when I reach for the toilet paper. LMAO!

  14. The no junk food is a good thing. It’s weird, but great 🙂

  15. Oh what is with that? I never get any peace on the loo, in the minute or two I am there I can guarantee at least three of the four will end up in there with me, mainly I think because if one comes in the others don’t want to miss anything. They ask me to get a drink for them, check their homework, ask where their bag/homework/favorite tshirt is and in the meantime their father is sprawled on the lounge watching tv in peace. When I tell them to ask their dad, they almost always say – but he’s busy, he is watching tv! *sigh*

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